True love story: LOVE REACHES TO HEAVEN

# Books and Writing: LOVE REACHES TO HEAVEN ......

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Now a writer in the process of publishing a book about the true story of the author's life. The story revolves around the trials God during adolescence, work hard to pursue their studies up to the University, careers and married after unexpected turn with a sore right knee, after 20 years later his wife was paralyzed side of the body and he took care of his wife until this day nearly 15 years. In addition he also take care for the mother and mother-in-law who were aged over 80 and 90 years.

Any announcements and publication will be updated through this blog. Briefly recounted the author's first book.

"LOVE REACHES TO HEAVEN ............" God willing.

On August 21, 1980, is the day that we are in love. As at the date on which we have lawfully married husband and wife. Our one year engagement was ended. After our marriage ceremony which was held in moderation only. Followed by the ceremony at the bride's wedding on August 26, 1980. On this day we have placed on the dais as” the King Day” to be announced to relatives and also the VIPs at the invitation of the bride's family.

This was followed on September 1, 1980, I was appointed as a State Administrative Officer. I was posted to the Housing Division, Office of the State Secretary Office, my job title as Assistant State Secretary (Housing). Beginning on that date (the date coincided with my birthday date) we were both full of life with love and affection very happy family.

After almost a year of our marriage, God has given a baby daughter as exciters and our love binder. Auspicious date falls on 9 June 1981. Summarized story, the next year is blessed with a baby   son was on October 13, 1982. Having a baby daughters and a son in the past two years after our marriage, our domestic happiness so tasting once. I am as head of the family, thank God that I has fulfil  my responsibility as husband and head of the family and the wife should also acted as a wife and mother to care for the family's needs.

Nevertheless, "I think it looks hot till afternoon, but rain happening at noon." It's all God has destined for  us, Happiness and harmony of our family was tested by God to give me a little pain in 1984, I have suffered a serious right knee pain, it is a pain in the late 1960's long before  storming back. Cause I was admitted to the hospital for treatment several months. 

Starting the date of this incident, our family have a grave situation where my wife had to take care of myself and the family due to my sickness which I could not walk. My right leg cemented with "Plaster of Paris" (POP) for one year. My wife had to work hard to take care of me such as clean  my urine and defecation, bathing and also provide food and medicine for me . After a month in the hospital, I was discharge to go home and be given medical leave for 6 months. But my feet are still on the cement 'POP' continuously for a year, to ensure that the damaged knee joint can heal and I able to walk as normal.  During my medical leave period. I have to continue my treatment with an orthopedic specialist. The doctor advised my knee need to prolong for POP till one year to ensure the healing process can be done naturally and with proper medication treatment.

When I was facing in thus greave pain situation. I find my wife is a good person and honest to her husband. She looked after me with a vengeance without any complaints and grievances. Thanks be to God who gives me mate with a woman who is honest and kind. Once past eight months, my knee wraps cement was opened and myself began to  walk  but need the help of a crushes. The effects of the treatment procedures of my knee, unfortunately the knee  cannot fully bend, it  moved only about 25% of the normal situation, it causing me to walk like wearing a prosthetic leg. From that date, myself can be include as a person  with a deformed foot like wearing a prosthetic leg, when pursue  the prayers, while sitting between the two prostrations   the right leg had to be brought forward discounter. Thus unfortunate situation  I can go through with the full awareness persevere because God has destined, perhaps to test my faith and devotion to Him. Time passed quickly, and I can accepted the right leg pain as destiny that was given to me and my family. so  our marriage intact as before and still fulfill to performed our goal of happily family.

Time will move quickly toward its destination.   During   our wedding period 1981 to 1995 we have been blessed with seven children, four boys and three girls. Relevant period is the time that we experienced married happiness without any major crisis occurs. I climb as high as the family head, thanks are due to Allah Almighty, in the grace and guidance, we allow our family to grow very well. While God expects us happiness family even though my knee illness.

Yet God has given me a second test, this test may be destined to happen after the first test I can faces with imperturbable. This test commencing on March 2, 2001. Upon completion of down prayer, my wife told me that her have extreme headaches. I bring her to the clinic to get  doctor treatment. According to the doctors her blood pressure is normal. The doctor prescribe injections   and oral medication for pain relief. That night my wife pain under control.

At noon the next day,  my wife informed her right foot and hand feeling  numbness and  a bit weak to move. After night prayers my wife was vomiting, and once again I took her to see a doctor at the same clinic. Doctor confirmed her blood pressure was normal, but since my wife suffered vomiting, doctor advised me to bring her to the hospital to get further treatment. 

After night prayer, My son and I accompany  my wife to the hospital which is about 3 kilometer from my house.   We arrived in the emergency department approximately 9.45 pm. After registration and wait for about 2 hours because of that time there is a serious accident cases. The Doctor called my wife into the examination room. I accompany her, the doctor has to undergo rigorous inspection and advised my wife to  admit in  the hospital ward for further examined by specialist doctors. My wife was admitted to the hospital about 1 am. When my wife was  warded,  I informed her to return home to take  rest.  My son will take care of his mom  in the hospital for the whole night.

The next morning I woke up early as usual before early morning prayer, to prepare for the  prayer. Suddenly a ringing phone rang and I answered the phone and heard my son in a tense situation " Dad have to coming soon to the hospital because mom was unconscious a few minutes ago" I replied spontaneous "Ok son you just stayed and look for your mom. Dad will coming soon after early morning prayer ".  when I was finished  performed the  early morning prayer, I  immediately  rushed to the hospital.

When I was arrived at the hospital, I found my son lonely sit near his mom bad. I was told by my son that his  mother was brought to the X ray room to undergo X ray and underwent an angiogram. About 7 am  my wife has finished the examination procedure and she  is still in a coma situation. My wife was transferred from the ordinary ward to intensive care unit (ICU) immediately . After the x ray films  and report was given, the doctor informed me that my wife suffered  bleeding in the brain and it causes coma  to my wife,   she also   needs to be supported on a ventilator to allow sufficient oxygen passed. Doctor further informed that my wife needed to go for surgery immediately before the  blood  in her brain bleeding  to the ear nerve system. If this is the case is likely  to happen my wife could not be saved. The doctor also informed that the surgery can not be done immediately in the hospital, because there was no Neurosurgeon Specialist, he went abroad for a medical conference.  The in charge doctor from the hospital said the situation  of my wife was treated just to control the bleeding in the brain. Hopefully with treatment given at the time was able to stabilize the situation. The doctor Also told that I could inform all next of kin to come to visit my wife in the hospital because she was critical and maybe it's time my wife almost  be gone forever soon.

Upon hearing the information from the doctor whose treating my wife, I became uneasy situation, I talk with my father. If the wife dies where are her remains will be buried later. My father at the time advised me to remain calm and patient, as well as prayers Multiply the wishes and ask God to keep my wife survived. After offering afternoon prayers I pray to Allah that wish to apply to be a solution to save my wife.

With unexpectedly I was informed by my sister, that there will be a VIP guests came to visit my wife at about 2 pm. When   VIP guests came  she sought the cooperation of doctors to provide the best treatment to my wife, the VIP guests is a sister to VVIP of the State, and told her sister will visit  my wife at 3 pm

Exactly at 3 pm, VVIP accompanied by  her ADC  come to visit my wife in hospital, during the visit she had ordered the doctor to send my wife to the Private Hospital in Kuala Lumpur for immediate surgery. Subsequently I was asked by the hospital management to purchase   a total numbers of 14 seats of plane, in order  my wife to be  sent to Kuala Lumpur with Malaysian Airline System (MAS) flight. . Thousand thank to the VVIP for her kindness help to arrange my lovely wife for further treatment. She is very kind person which I well know her when I was attached to her office for nearly 4 years before.

I was with a colleague (a retired Air Force Major ( Malaysian Air force) go to Air Port.  Upon arriving there, I was told that the ticket was sold out for two days flight schedule. I sat down and tears when listening, filled with feelings of frustration and just pray to God to give us the way to solve the problem is so complicated. While  driving a car with a friend to the hospital, my friend proposed to try to call  Sugai Besi RMAF to get  Charity flight.   When we phone to our RMAF informed that the ADC to the VVIP has made ​​an application to the RMAF to take a patient from Kota Bharu to Kuala Lumpur. Upon hearing the good news, I am very grateful to Allah SWT for giving me a way to overcome the problem is so acute and short tim required.

The Force asked me to get ready at 7.30 pm for departure to KL.  The hospital management also told me to purchase 2 flight ticket for accompany doctor and nurse from Kuala Lumpur to Kota Bharu. I bought the tickets as requested  At 8.50 pm I, my wife, doctor and nurse escorts boarded an ambulance to the airport for a military plane that was waiting there.

At approximately 9:25 pm CN235 Malaysian Royal  aircraft   departed from Sultan Ismail Petra Air Pot. During a journey of about 30 minutes in the air, doctors check the condition of my wife, she still in a coma and  her respiratory system assisted with manually pumped control by the nurse. to help my wife breathing .I was sitting besides my wife watched the two of them resolve their duties . Suddenly the laptops used by doctors run out of battery causing doctors can not monitor the  blood pressure, respiration and pulse rate as display monitors of laptop been extinguished. Doctors began to look nervous and panic.  I sat next to the bed of my wife  was not able to do anything, just lip unfailing read verses of the Qur'an and pray. When doctors   try to check my wife pulse on her wrist. But the doctor  will not be able to detect it. Doctors began lingering his head in disappointment,  possible for note by a nurse, made ​​without any speech. I was nervous and thought in mind  that my wife will be left  myself  and childrens forever. Tears flowed down my cheeks without realizing it. What can I do  with  this critical situation, I just  able to pray  to God and read a few verses of  the Quran.

For the past couple of nervous situation, I was suddenly awakened by a voice of doctor "Thank God," he raised his hand to signal  as OK, and his face began to look calm and cheerful.  followed by a smile thanks to the nurse. At 10.30 pm we were told by Sergeant Air Force that our  flight  will arrive at Subang Airport shortly. 

Upon arriving at the  Subang Airport,  The ambulance was ready to take us to the Private Hospital in Kuala Lumpur. The trip from the airport to the hospital Kuala Lumpur  is  about 1 hour. On the way to the hospital,  we had to run slower due  congested traffic. I can only pray to God that our trips is  simplify and  my beloved wife is  survived.

When we arrived at the hospital, The specialist doctors (neurosurgeon) is  waiting. As soon as my wife admitted  to the hospital, doctors made detail  inspections . Then doctors, Dato 'Dr Arumugam (Neurosurgeon) told me that my wife is stable. He was at that time undergoing surgery anticipated to be completed at 2am. The doctor said,  If  I m  agreed, my wife head surgery will be done tomorrow morning at 8 am. I thus agree with the doctor's advice as my wife in a stable condition. The doctor also told me that my wife's after operation effects; may have paralyzed right  hands and feet. Beside that she  possibly  could not talk due to her tongue will   be short and stiff.

I was asked by the hospital management  to pay a deposit of RM5, 000.00. I am a bit shock to hear such big amount of deposit. Luckily I have a credit card to pay for hospital deposit. From this incident I am thinking about the poor people, during emergency of such situation, how they going to pay the big amount. The hospital procedure should be customers friendly and the authority should look seriously on this matter to ease the poor people to get better hospital treatment during emergency cases. 

Regarding the doctor advise to do the head surgery, I am thinking of the possibility of success on the head operation, According of one specialist doctor from a government hospital advise me not to do the operation to my wife head, due to his experience that, the head surgery chances to be success is about 50% only. To get a proximity good decision to this matter. I started my own calculation of possibility of success about 50 %. The failure is also about 50%. Without any  surgery her chances to leave only 50%. The other 50% only through doa to God for His blessing and gave a good result  So I am confident that if my wife going for operation she still have good chances to leave 50% . I made my own argument that if I took the chances of 50% to be success in operation, that mean by doing the operation my wife still have chances to live by 75%. So I am strongly agreed with doctor advice to go for head surgery for my wife to safe her live and recover from coma.

After considering several possibilities of many angles, I went to  see a doctor and told  him that I am agreed to sign a letter of consent for my wife head  surgery. During the submission the  form, I said to doctor "I gave mandate to you to do anything just to save her life, I will pray to the God". After discussions with doctors , I in good faith make a phone call to a few people, like SS Dato 'Mufti, SS Dato' deputy mufti, SS Dato 'Khadi Besar’ and a few more ustaz  to aware of the situation of my wife in a coma and will post the next day and beg wish them to be held prayer request form and simplify all the surgical instruments business.

Once everything is settled,  I went to my sister house at Semenyeh. When we arrived at Semenyeh, clock showed almost 4 am. That night I could not sleep well, my mind still remembered the wife  still in  coma situation at the hospital,  I am try to imagine what would happen to our family if my beloved wife can not be saved. What will happen  to my seven children those are still growing up in school, need the love of a mother and the nursing care of the mother, especially remembered how the future of the youngest daughter  (four years old). She is able to grow up like other children if his mother had gone forever, and what will happen if I also need a place to love and care poured everyday needs, for which there is no substitute wife, may have married another, and what will so the structure of our family before   this very happy.To meet the leisure time before eight o'clock the following morning,  with my uncles and cousins ​​together we  pray to  seeking God's blessing that all matter for saving of beloved wife from death.

The next morning about 7.50 am. My family and I have been in the hospital awaiting  at surgery ward. Exactly at 8.00 am a nurse and her assistant bring my wife to the operating room. I wait with bated breath outside the operating room. Surgery is expected to take between 3 to 4 hours.   During awaiting completion of surgery, has been capable I just pray and read the scriptures in the Quran, would to God that the surgery successfully. At 11.50 am   the wife taken out of the operating room and brought into the ICU ward. The doctor on duty informed that my wife will recover back in the period of 3 to 4 hours later, I was  allowed to be in the foyer of the ICU and was only able to see through tinted windows only.   Having a few hours after the surgery my wife was not yet awake of, but all of her body system is functioning normal and manageable. At 3.00 pm I was in the right in the nurse to sit on the side of the bed where the wife is given the treatment.

Having been with the wife assume someone is born less than 30 minutes I found the wife was able  move hand movements even eye still closed. At 4.15 pm the wife was able to open her eyes but she still look weak between conscious and unconscious. I persevere to  wife developments in the side of his bed while reading sentences and sentences thousand dinnar chair. At about 4:25 pm my wife opened her  eyes and issuing the word "hungry". Alhamdulillah I give thanks to God for their healing to my wife, just how happy a husband who are told by doctors that his wife may not be able to speak after surgery. BUT the power of Almighty God, and his power over all other creatures on earth. Man plans and God just decide. These positive developments I know the nurse assigned to care for my wife. Nurses tell me whether water spells to be given to my wife, she would help us. Speechless heart to hear because she was an Indian, but has a good heart trying to help patients and their families with a variety of efforts and provided care through modern medical remedies. So I gave the nurse zam-zam water Yasin read that I brought before. 

The next day  my wife was able to project a speedy recovery and I never complacent guard every time, except in one or two hours a day will go to nephew house, not far from the hospital for bathing and changing clothes. This routine continued until the day 29.'s Wife was allowed to return for further treatment at the hospital, Kota Bharu. 

When I was taking care of my wife in the hospital I was approached by a doctor and hospital management officers, while they talked with my doctor said “your wife really lucky, because the nerves in the brain surgery to remove the blood flowing is in an area that concerned with "memory" if the wrong surgical procedure it will make my wife lost her memory. When the doctor said I flash back saying that doctors may not be able to talk my wife. How grateful I am to Him who has saved me and my wife still gives guidance to enable the wife to speak normally. The other thing the doctor told my wife that fast recovery from pain occurred was much aided by my attitude as husband to go along and motivate him to get better soon.   Generally  doctor said that I was "exemplary husband" so faithful husband whose willing  to take care of his wife to a quick   recovery. "Not easy to find a faithful husband like you." The doctor said to me, I just smiled only for praise, for me they are God's gift. We as servants there any advantage at all.

When I was getting ready to bring home my wife to Kota Bharu. I was told by the hospital management that the total bill cost of treating my wife is RM25, 500.00. But I was given by  my employer a letter of guarantee  that the company will pay all costs incurred during my wife at the hospital  by the Company takaful scheme. If more than the amount allowed, the rest I had to bear.

On day 29, my wife was discharge for  the ward in the Private Hospital Kuala Lumpur, and asked to continue further treatment in a hospital in Kota Bharu. To bring home my wife had bought a plane ticket MAS from Subang Airport to Kota Bharu. During the lead up to the plane's wife has to be lift by MAS staff  as yet she able to walk.

Of anxious moments I did with my beloved wife, our household and family  environment before full with love and affection, began a dismal because my  wife is ill need others   help to ensure her  get her daily needs. Beginning on that date I started to think how I want to take care of a sick wife that need care all the time, and also manages the family of growing children who are all still studies. Various disordered thoughts in my mind, then I am only surrendered to God that all of my business and family facilitation. . Amin ...

The conclusion of the story that I presented here demonstrate God determine everything to us. We as humans can only plan for success in the future, but God is able to change all our plans and maybe the result is different from what we expected. Nevertheless it is Blessings, to test the extent we believe and fear Allah. Every calamity that afflicted did we ask Him for the blessings that solved all the difficulties as best as possible. For those who have a high level of faith and piety will feel pleased with whatever conditions God bless, because they believe in the promise of God that all hardships with patience will be replaced with joy and excitement when the time comes. We as humans are just trying to pray and always put our hope to Allah. God has promised that there will be a cure for every disease, every problem happen there is a solution. God always with us. So we must be closed to Allah by perform solat in the prime time everyday in our life. And also we has to follow all Allah directive in what ever we did in daily life. Thanks to God.

By the grace of God, I am armed with some cooking skills learned during younger age in the 70s, my wife needs  manage paralysis, providing all basic need of wife everyday, eating,drinking, bathing, preparing for prayers and other needs personal. Besides, I also keep mother-in-law (90 years old) living with us since my wife became ill (because the mother was so close to his wife). That's my daily routine of taking care of a paralyzed wife has now passed nearly 15 years. Bitter  traveled in managing the everyday wife and our household, I have  mature about the ins and outs of managing and caring for the chronically ill. God willing, the experience acquired during the period of 14 years would I tell you in this little book to be read by the general public, as a reference or families learn to manage chronic disease through prolonged.

"The conclusion of the story that I presented here demonstrate God determine everything to Him. We as humans can only plan for success in the future, but God is able to change all our plans and may result is a far cry from what we hope . Yet it is Blessings, to test the extent we believe and fear Allah. every misfortune that afflicted did we ask Him for the blessings that solved all the difficulties as best as possible. For those who have a high level of faith  will feel pleased to anything certainty of God, we as humans are just trying to pray alone. Allah has promised that there will be a cure for every disease and every problem will have the solving ". 

Based on that experience I went through in life when teenagers go through a conjecture with a prolonged illness prevented myselves from enjoying life like other teen ager, in spite of my indomitable spirit and a little patience are all tests passable adolescence they are, and continue to go through with starting a family day filled with joy for several years initially, followed by a second test when right knee illness  old case strike  back  more seriously, resulting in a perfect turn into a physically handicapped man, and followed by unstinting efforts to improve career status. Once able to enjoy the sound  career in the private sector, with unexpectedly his beloved wife was involved in  incident with a head surgery and the effects of surgical procedures, now wife was paralyzed side of the body (right - hand and foot). Again tested with the pain of my wife, I have  to the care of her and assistance at all times. In spite of myself is very grateful to be given the power by God to go through all that trouble as it comes, and be able to manage whatever capacity possible and now have almost 15 years to face all the difficulties in life.

When examined from experience ups and downs experienced by my wife, a lesson to the make a lesson that happiness household and family life is a key factor lies to her husband at the helm. If they have the right intentions when first married and followed with action full responsibility for the role as husband and head of the family, insya Allah will receive guidance from Allah for attending  through all the trials and obstacles in building the ark home to achieve all the ambitions desired to achieve happiness husband love forever reaches to heaven.